"...Behold I say unto you, that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise" --Alma 37:6

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Update

Hey,
So the class I started this blog for is now over (I passed with an A+), but I have decided to keep the blog going. I am, started 2012 going to work hard at improving my personal scripture study and this blog is going to help me.

From now on after I read and study the scriptures I am going to blog about what I read. There may be times when what I learned may be too personal to share, but I will share what I feel I need to share with you.
I hope for those who have been reading my blogs that I have been a help and not a hindrance. I hope I helped and maybe gave good inspiration. With my new post the same disclaimer remains: If you disagree with the topic, that's fine, but please place your differing opinion on your own blog and not mine. I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and I am proud of it. You may believe whatever you wish, but here on this blog the gospel of my church is what will be discussed. If you do not like this religion or disagree with its teachings fine, talk about it elsewhere but not here. Thank you for your consideration and respect.

Jessica

Friday, December 9, 2011

Divorce & Remarriage & Honesty

When two people with children from previous relationships come together to form a family, it's wonderful and extremely easy...at least we wish it was easy. Wonderful yes, but it's not easy. A family is the most important thing in our lives, which means it's worth the effort.

Whether the previous spouse has died, or if it was divorce, both scenarios are difficult. The most important thing is that as a newly married couple the husband and wife need to maintain a united front, and have patience.

Patience is key. Nothing is going to happen overnight. His/her kids will not warm up to their new parent immediately. We must be patient and simply try our best. I do not have much experience in this area, but I have seen friends in a blended family situation and learned a great deal from them.

A key thing i observed is the need to emphasis family. They aren't his, or her kids, bout "our" kids. You are a family, one unit, one family. When a child feels accepted by the "new" parent it makes communication a little bit easier.

Communication will take time. Communication comes when trust is established. One may ask how do you gain a person's trust. Well, I may be the wrong person to ask, but I can tell you that it takes determination, a true desire to gain that trust, patience, and an understanding of the other person's cautions.

Never force, pressure, or push someone to trust you or confide in you. That will automatically permanently remove trust, or the chance of trust. Small conversation and making the person feel safe is the ideal method. Safety and security is key. I know that for me I need to feel safe and confident in the continuance of that safety. Being an honest person, makes all the difference.

Keep your promises, agreements, and covenants. If you say, you will be there at 7pm, be there 10 minutes early, exactly on time, or only 5 minutes late. It may seem trivial, being on time, but if one is chronically late, people around them learn or decide that they cannot be trusted to keep and stand behind their word.

Small, recurring discrepancies really make all the difference. as this is my final post for my class, (I will write more posts scripture study related), If you take anything from this posts on family, please take this: Be an honest, trustworthy person full of integrity. One may be surprised how much of a difference honesty makes.

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Parenting

One may ask why a 21 year old, single, college student is writing a post about parenting. Well, we discussed it in class and who says it's not a good idea to learn some good parenting skills and techniques before you have children. We mainly focused on parenting teens. It was really quite informative.

First, we reviewed the 3 main styles of parenting : Authoritarian, Permissive, and Authoritative (or Democratic, or Active). Authoritarian parenting is very, my way or the high way, includes no discipline but punishment, and greatly increases the child's chance of rebellion. Permissive parenting, also known as door mat parenting, the child is allowed to do whatever they want, parents never say no, and the child learns to become extremely dependent on their parents. Authoritative, also known as democratic or active, is the ideal parenting style. Parents with this style use fair discipline, allow teens to actively participate in deciding rules and consequences when rules are broken, they also treat their kids with great respect and understanding.

If you do not know for sure which parenting style is yours, or you think you know here is an online survey by Active Parenting Publishers and the work of Dr. Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D, Active Parenting.

The site for the survey also has a great deal of information about a great program for improving parenting skills and learning new techniques for raising teens. I may not be the mother of teens yet, nor have much experience raising teens, but when you are in college most of your peers in undergraduate school are still teens or just barely out of the teen years.

Even 21 year olds still act like teens (including me). These techniques that Dr. Popkin teaches and explains are extremely useful for interacting with my peers and just learning to better understand what they might be thinking, or how they may feel.

Also, I was a teenager once and my parents used a lot of these techniques and it worked out wonderfully. I still had my temper tantrums, and odd quirks and mood swings but my parents took them all in stride. They were pretty amazing. As members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints a great fear among parents is to have a child reject the gospel. This can lead to overcompensating and permissive parenting, or in some case authoritarian parenting supposedly removing any chance of the child rebelling.

Neither permissive parenting nor authoritarian parenting will stop a child from rebelling. Authoritative parenting isn't a guaranteed promise of wonderful children, but it decrease the risk of rebellion of the teen. Authoritative parenting also helps improve communication between parent and teen. It also shows the teen that the parents have a greater trust in them which increases the teen's loyalty to their parents.

No matter how wonderful a parent you are, or what style of parenting you use, you cannot stop the inevitable. I mean to say that what a child chooses to do after leaving the home and going on their own is their choice. We all have free agency and sometimes bad choices are made and paths are taken that cause more harm than good. We have to let children learn from their own mistakes. Our desire to protect them from everything is noble and important, but everybody needs to fall into a couple of cracks before they learn how to avoid them.

My teacher, Bro. Williams, shared a wonderful story about a young lady he used to counsel. She said something to him that he will never forget and he shared it with us. Now I will never forget it. She said, "You're the grown-ups. You're supposed to do what's right even if we don't want you to". Children want and expect discipline and respect. They don't want their parents to be their friends, they want their parents to be their parents. They need that support and love only a parent can give them. By trying to be their friend, we are denying them that support and love.

I may not be a parent or be an expert on parenting and the best way to raise children, but I was a child once and using that perspective gives me some ideas on what I could to be a great parent. I also have the example of my parents and the wonderful job they did. They may think they could have done better, but they did everything right and in the way it was supposed to be done.

My teacher provided some resources for outside study, not required for class, and I am going to list them here. I plan to read them and learn what I can, and I challenge you to do the same. Thanks for reading!

Parenting with Love: Making a difference in a day, by Glenn I. Latham

What a Parent to Do? Solving Family Problems in a Christlike Way, by Glenn I. Latham

The Parenting Style Quiz is from ActiveParenting.com

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Financial Values

Make a list of your financial priorities. What is the most important thing on that list? How will you wisely budget your paycheck? Of course, your answers vary by lifestyle, religion, and the amount of income you have. More importantly, where the money goes and how the finances affect the family depends greatly on how well the parents, or couple, work together to decide where the money goes and what is more important, or what comes first.

Let's say for example that a husband has just purchased a new $800 outdoor grill,...and he didn't discuss it with his wife first. Was that a wise thing to do? Or what if the wife goes out with her best girlfriend to the mall and spends $200 on new clothes and accessories. Was that any wiser?

Couples, husbands and wives, need to communicate and work together to decide their financial goals, what their budget will be, and how much "fun" money they each get. This also requires a great deal of willpower to ask themselves, "Do I really need this? Do I need this right now, or can I save up and get it later?" It can be difficult, but according to Elder Robert D. Hales, we must "joyfully live within [our] means". He also told a story about shopping with his wife. They walked past a dress in the window of a shop and Elder Hales thought the dress was beautiful. They went inside and his wife tried it on. She loved it, and she looked great. After a couple of minutes the clerk came out of the dressing room and hung the dress back up. His wife came out and he asked what went wrong. His wife then said the four most caring words, "We can't afford it".

Those four words say a lot more than people realize. By saying that Elder Hales' wife was showing her love and selflessness. She thought of him, their current situation, and what their financial goals were before herself. Does this mean, we should never splurge or have fun? No, there are ways to have fun and treat ourselves, while staying within our means and what we can afford.

Taking care of one's finances is a unique process to every family, or couple. Marvin J. Ashton's article, "One For the Money" gives some great advice on how to manage your finances and to be able to live within your means.

Friday, November 18, 2011

Communication-Listening

Have you ever been in a phone conversation when the line suddenly goes dead? Do you then, immediately blame the phone company, or do you begin to wonder if the person you were talking to hung up on you/ Have you ever heard the phrase, "Lost in Translation"? When you simply, accidentally switch punctuation, or if a comment comes out wrong, what you are trying to say gets lost. When you don't express your feelings to the one you love, will they ever know how you feel?

As humans, we do not, naturally, communicate well. Some communicate better than others, but the messages still get lost, or skewed. Don't worry, don't panic. Experts have found great ways to enhance and improve our communication. One of the greatest modern technological advancements in the creation of spell-check. This simple invention, when used accurately, has had a freat impact on communication.

But, as I was saying, experts have some tips for us. I am going to focus on the tips for improving our listening skills. Expert Madelyn Burley-Allen (1995) gives four ways to improve our listening skills. She first suggests taking initiative and actively listening. Meaning, look at who's talking, concentrate on what they are saying, watch their non-verbal cues, and try to understand what they are trying to communicate to you.

The second thing Madelyn suggests is to resist distractions. I understand this is easier said than done, but we need to consciously decide to put aside distractions for a while and focus on what the other person is saying.

Some reading this post are thinking, "Yeah, yeah...". One would be surprised at how hard such simple advice can be. I admit that I, myself could use some practice in listening. Continuing, the third piece of advice Madelyn give is to control your emotions. Resist the tendency to butt in and respond to a comment before the other person is finished. We need to hear the other person out completely, and not stop listening to formulate a reply in our heads.

The final, magical piece of advice is to be proactive, ask questions, and rephrase what's been said to clarify the meaning. Clarifying helps to check accuracy, check feelings, and simply shows interest and understanding.

There are many other ways to improve communication. Improving our listening skills is only one step. Be proactive and strive to improve communication between you and others in your life.


Here is a research article for further study:

Burley-Allen, M. 1995. Listening: The Forgotten Skill. 2nd ed.
New York: John Wiley & Sons

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Family Crisis

A family goes through so much and who, or what, endures is always amazing to me. The world today questions the importance of the family. There is a great push for, what I call "severe" independence. According to the world we don't need anybody else and we can do everything on our own. With that when we have no personal ties we are "free" to see the world, spend money on anything we want, and simply, "eat, drink, and be merry for tomorrow we die" (2 Nephi 28:7)

I hope that last phrase sounded familiar. It is the wicked way of living. Let us live the gospel way of living. In the gospel, "the family is central to the Father's plan for His children". We cannot go through life alone. Trials, tribulations, and temptations will come into our lives that we cannot handle on our own,...and we aren't meant to. The family we are given is a great gift given to us from God. Our family is meant to be with us and act as a support group, or system, when we are assailed on all sides by things we cannot handle, nor control.

When a family goes through a crisis, or trial, how they work together greatly affects the lives of every member of that family. As current, or future, parents we need to prepare for any crisis. Any emergency fund, or account, would be a wonderful idea. A child needs all the love, counsel, and comfort a parent can give.

So, you can try and live life alone, but I can say from my own experience, that trying to do things on your own,...get lonely, difficult, and extremely exhausting. When you let go of pride and ask for help, it will change your life. A family is full of people you can turn to for help. They can help you to carry your burdens, and you can help family members with their burdens. In our darkest moments, the Lord and our families provide a guiding light.

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Sexual Intimacy

My previous disclaimer, placed at the beginning of my post discussing homosexuality, still applies to this post and any post on my blog.

In this post I wish to discuss sexual intimacy. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and I believe that sexual intercourse is something very sacred and should be reserved for marriage.

The worldly belief is that sex is just sex and that it doesn't matter whether you are married or simply dating. Sex isn't just sex. It is the sacred power of procreation. God has given us His most sacred and important power: the power to create life.

Such power should not be taken lightly. It is the greatest power God has given us. To be given such a responsibility evokes in me such feelings of gratitude. I cannot fully express my emotions.

The Family: A Proclamation to the World speaks more eloquently than I ever could. I urge you to read it and ponder and pray about what it says.

The power to create life,...wow...I feel so blessed and loved just knowing that the Lord is trusting me with such power and trusting me to take great care of His children here on Earth.

Many use the phrase, "It's my life". That's true to an extent. It's true it's your life, but what you do with that life doesn't just affect you. It affects all those around you and the future generation. Be responsible. Live your life right and keep that which is sacred, sacred.

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Newly Weds: Trusting Each Other

In my Family Relations class this last week, we've discussed selecting a life partner, and all that newlyweds go through in the first weeks. Specifically we discussed all that newlyweds should or shouldn't do, what they could do, and so on. I noticed a recurring theme in our class discussions that really touched a chord in my heart.

Trust. Trust was the core that held all that newlyweds did together. Trust in God, in each other, and in themselves. For many this seems like a simple thing. I say now something that is very personal but that I feel I must say. I trust no one. I have a hard time trusting anybody, least of all myself. I am afraid of what I might do if I don't keep myself to a strict lifestyle. I fear what others may or may not do to me, or against me. I trust God, at times. That is sad to say, but a great deal of the time I try and accomplish things myself before I place trust in the Lord to help me.

I have had experiences in my past that have affected how quickly, or easily I trust others. I want to say to all that read this here and now: Trust. Don't trust too easily but trust that the Lord will help you and stay with you. Trust that your friends will have your best interests at heart. Trust that your family will always stand behind you. Trust that all will happen in the way that it should.

Do not lack in trust like me. I learned in class that a lack of trust is not good. Not that I thought it was good, but I never thought about it's affect on those around me, and my future husband. Trust in those around you that care about you to be there when you need them. Realize that not everybody is out to get you or your money.

Trust is key to a marriage. Without trust a marriage cannot survive. Trust requires a leap of faith and can be extremely scary. But with trust, a relationship can grow and true intimacy can be acquired. This post isn't as scholarly in nature as my previous posts, but this is how I feel right now and it has been weighing heavily on my mind throughout this last week.

The very idea of having someone get that close to me, to make myself that vulnerable to another person is the scariest thing I could ever do. I hate to be seen vulnerable and I build walls specifically for the purpose of hiding my vulnerability. I hide behind sarcasm, "I'm fine"'s and "Oh, it's okay"'s.

As I said I have been seriously pondering this all week. I had a long discussion with my mother, and my best friend. They both told me they had known what I had just realized: I don't trust well. They also told me that it's definitely something I am going to have work on.

Do you gain trust for others overnight? I wish, but it's simply not that easy. It takes a great deal of time. It's interesting how losing trust for others can happen in a single day, but earning that trust back takes years.

Each day, look at what your friends have done for you, and just say out loud, or to yourself, "I trust them". If you say it often enough it will become true. Just as a person's testimony is strengthened each time they bear it.

I hope my small message about trust is well received and understood. Thank you for reading.

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Cohabitation VS Marriage

Cohabiting, or living together,...is it really better than marriage? Is it really any different? I have friends in both situations. In my personal experience, those who were married were a great deal happier than those who were simply living together with no plans to get married.

Do all who live together not intend to get married? No, there are those who live together as a precursor to marriage, with the intention of getting married to the one they are living with. Coresidential daters simply are tired of living alone and figure since they are dating it would be more convenient to live together. They are unsure of the outcome of the relationship, but simply don't want to live alone.

Trial cohabitors are committed to marriage, but not necessarily to the person they are currently living with. The final grouping of cohabitors are those living together as an alternative to marriage. In this situation, they are more committed to their partner than to marriage. They want a long-term relationship, but don't want to get married. So of all these, are any of them a good idea? Is cohabiting better than marriage?

No, it's not. Extensive research has yet to prove that cohabiting with a romantic partner for any reason is a good idea. Several research articles have found definite differences between the two experiences. For one, married couples have reported more sex and more satisfying sex. Married couples also have a better-quality relationship than do cohabiting couples. Most interesting was that married couples reported greater happiness, less depression, higher levels of commitment to the relationship, and better relationships with parents.

All of this points to the fact that there is not much positive said about cohabiting. I believe very strongly in marriage. I stand behind The Family: A Proclamation to the World 100%. I am listing some sources and articles for those who wish to read further:

Whitehead,B.D., and D. Popenoe.2001. The State of our Unions: The Social Health of Marriage
In America. The National Marriage Project Web Site

Brown, S.L., and A. Booth.1996. "Cohabitation versus Marriage: A Comparison of Relationship Quality." Journal of Marriage and the Family 58:668-78

Dush, C.M.K., C.L. Cohan, and P.R. Amato. 2008. "The Relationship Between Cohabitation and Marital Quality and Stability." Journal of Marriage and the Family 65:539-49

The Four Kinds of Love

In my Family Relations class we discussed love. The main discussion question: What is love? That is a question I do not yet have an answer for. I have to experience love, romantic love anyway. But I learned this week about four very powerful Greek words: Storge, Philia, Eros, and Agape. These four words describe four different kinds of love that we as humans experience.

Storge (pronounced store-gay) is, "the kind of love found in the affection between parents and their children...It is the least discriminating kind of love, because 'almost anyone can become an object of affection: the ugly, the stupid, even the exasperating.'"

Philia (fill-ee-ah) is, "The kind of love that exists between friends...It is the intense sharing between two people who have similar perspectives on life."

Eros (air-os) is "love between men and women...Aristotle said that eros makes people long to bei in each other's presence. In other words, eros is more than lust. It is more than a desire for sex. It is desire for sex with a particular person. In eros, one is preoccupied with thoughts about the person and longing to be with the person."

Agape (a-gah-pay) is, "a love that is independent of one's feelings for another. To practice agape is to act on behalf of the well-being of someone else, whether you like that person or not...it is a love in which we will to act beneficially toward another."

(Marriage & Family, Lauer pg. 128-129)



Friday, October 14, 2011

Gender Roles

I am now going to discuss a very sensitive topic. There will be those that disagree with what I say, and may have strong opinions about it. I respect your opinions and what you believe. I ask, very simply and respectfully, that you keep that opinion to yourself. You may have an opinion contrary to mine, but I do not wish to debate over who is right, and who is wrong. This site is very simply to give my opinion, and provide sources for my opinion. If you have a contrary opinion, please post it on your own blog. Do not post on mine.

Now to my topic.

In my Family Relations course, we discussed gender roles and homosexuality. As some of my readers probably already know, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints does not condone homosexual relationships. The Church gave out a statement following the trial regarding Prop 8 in California. Prop 8 Response : here's the link. Simply put we believe that marriage between a man and a woman to be divinely appointed by God. The Family: A Proclamation to the World gives the Church's first official statement on marriage and family and its great divinity.

I have no eloquence with words, nor can my words persuade many. Gratefully, there are others whose words and voices are stronger than mine that speak truth. First I am providing a link for an article that is a transcription of an interview with an apostle of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, Elder Dallin H. Oaks and a member of the Seventy Elder Lance B. Wickman: Same-Gender Attraction. Hopefully this article/interview gives you, my readers, some insight.

Yet another article I am providing a link for is a research article done by A. Dean Byrd. He has a Ph.d and several other qualifications. This is his research article discussing the idea that people are born homosexual: "Born That Way". I agree with his findings that homosexuality is not something people are born with. Homosexuality is a choice. That is all I have to say.

I am going to provide another link to an article by Elder Dallin H. Oaks, of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, also entitled, "Same-Gender Attraction".

My official statement on this topic is that homosexuality is a choice. One can the attraction, but not act on it. To act on the attraction is a personal choice.

For those wishing to do more research I am leaving a list of links here at the end of this blog:





Family & Culture

Families, in their traditions and habits, differ from greatly. A family in Arizona, for example, has very different habits, traditions, and rituals than a family in Nebraska. Main events may remain the same, but what the individual family does for the event can be very different. Is this a bad thing? No, there is nothing wrong with two families celebrating Christmas, or Halloween in different fashions from each other.

In the March 1986 issue of the Ensign, a magazine distributed by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, there was an article titled, "Traditions Worth Keeping". I would like to place an excerpt here for you to read:

"Family traditions are like spiritual and emotional cement in the foundation of a happy home. They create fond memories, and these memories bond us together as nothing else can.

Traditions influence the way we live and the way we look at life. They may be practices or beliefs handed down from generation to generation, or new habits or patterns we establish in our own families. Some will be based on commandments and righteous principles, others may evolve from our cultural or national heritage."

As the above excerpt says, family traditions are quite influential. They help shape who become later in life. Every person looks back on their family's traditions constantly. We may not realize it, but some of the traditions become habits and before we realize it, we are doing it without even thinking about it. The ensign article goes on to discuss cultural traditions:

"Cultural traditions can enrich family life too. Some families inherit unique national traditions and customs from their parents or grandparents. Other families adopt customs because of an interest in other cultures of the world. On May Day in France, for example, it is traditional to exchange flowers—lilies of the valley—as a symbol of friendship. In Mexico, the breaking of the pinata—a decorated container filled with gifts and candies—is a highlight of family fun on special occasions. Colorful traditions like these are to be found in all cultures."

Cultural traditions are not to dismissed or looked down upon. Cultural traditions can help a person define who they are what is important for, or to, them. By following family, cultural traditions, descendants are creating invisible bonds, or connections with their fathers who came before them. A part of our ancestry, or history, comes alive within us and tells us who we are, and who we can be.

Above all remember this: Family is the most important tradition of all to pass on. We must teach our children the importance of family and make sure they understand the "Family Proclamation" and all that is discussed therein.

Monday, October 3, 2011

‘Til 2013 do us part? Mexico mulls 2-year marriage

This is an article I found about a proposed new marriage contract in Mexico City. I found similar articles on ABC News, BBC News, Time Magazine Online, Fox News, and CNN Online. I want to hear your thoughts. What do you think of this proposed bill? I personally think that the Catholic church is right on this one, "It's absurd!". Anyway, please comment! Let's get this story out there and make people aware of what the world is coming to.

Sunday, October 2, 2011

The Family Systems Theory

In my Family Relations class we have been discussing the family systems theory. This theory views family as one unit. The individuals actions affect this unit. It's easier explained as a car. Each component in the car is necessary to make it run. If just one component is broken or operating incorrectly, the entire system is thrown off. This is how the family systems theory works.

I thought about this and to me it makes sense. Just one person in a family can change the entire attitude or function of the family. A family, as previously defined on this blog, consists of a mother and father, married, and their children. when that basic definition is changed the family is no longer a family, but is turned or warped into something that people try to pass off as a family.

(I realize my comments may offend some, but this is how I feel. If you do not agree,...tell me why and maybe we can have a more civilized discussion versus lewd comments.)

The family unit, once altered, is warped, and the components do not function as they are supposed to. To continue with the car analogy, if the car components are not functioning correctly, how long can the car run before it desperately needs repair. Not long. Sometimes, more often than not, the car just shuts down and refuses to go any further. Smokes emerges from the hood, and you're stuck on the side of the road, watching all the other cars pass you by.

Recently, as I've driven on the interstate, and local freeways, I've noticed the amount of abandoned broken down cars has greatly increased. I mention this because, continuing the analogy, the family is being warped and distorted at a more frequent rate, and just as it is changing, so are the components breaking down and the entire unit abandoned through divorce, or other form of legal separation.

Many say that the family is in the best place ever. That society being so accepting of other family forms is the best thing for everybody. Is it? Is changing the core of life really a good thing. We cannot abandon the family structure so easily. The family unit, or structure, did not fail. The components within the structure did. We need to focus on the components and how to put our best into repairing them so that we can get back on the freeway and to our final destination. For the journey is where we become the leaders of tomorrow, parents of tomorrow, and the saviors of the world.

I bear my solemn testimony of the family. I know with all my heart that the family is crucial. I know that through righteousness and temple work, families can be together forever. My heart rejoices at that thought! The idea of being with all of my family, every single person is so wonderful. I thank my Heavenly Father a thousand times over for this wonderful blessing. I pray that all may receive this wonderful blessing. Amen

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Family Defined

My Family Relations professor said something that shocked and surprised me. He pointed out that in the new edition of our textbook, the experts who wrote the book couldn't give a definition of what a family is. The experts didn't know how to define family!!! Well experts, a young college student is about to tell you something that apparently you can't figure out. Family defined:



"THE FAMILY is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity." --The Family: A Proclamation to the World





That is what a family is. No ifs, ands, or buts. No gray lines. It's very black and white. The definition of family has never changed and it will never change. What changes is what the world thinks. What the family is, is an everlasting, eternal truth that cannot be altered or denied. No matter how much the world attacks the family they cannot change the truth. The truth is something unshakable, unchangeable.

I ask any who read this to be as truths are. Be unshakable. Be firm. Be strong and everlasting. Be courageous. Tell the world what a family is. Remind us all of who we are and what we are meant to do and become. Do not let Satan win. This is our time. What are we doing with it?









Monday, September 12, 2011

Family

For my first official post about family, I want to say that family is very important to me. One cannot go through life alone. A family is a safety net. It's a place where everybody knows your name and no matter what you do, they will always love you. I believe with all my heart that families are forever. The family bond is not broken by death. This world is tearing the family apart and it breaks my heart. My own family is not immune to the new world vision that the world doesn't need families. The new world view is that it's every man, (or woman) for themselves. The world seems to believe that we can make it on our own and that we don't need anybody else.
I say this bluntly, and from experience, we cannot do things on our own. We can stick up our chin and and suck it up, but at the end of the day, we need our family. We need them to validate our choices. We need them to tell us when we were wrong, and give us advice on what to do to fix it. We need them to remind us that we are not alone, that yes life is really hard but that it's all worth it. To me it's no question: Families are forever and I thank my Heavenly Father for it.

Intro Post

Hello blog world,
I am starting this blog for a college course and I am somewhat excited. I am to relay my feelings and emotions about marriage and family on this blog for others to read. I have strong opinions about marriage and family, so I ask that if what I write is something you disagree with, don't follow my blog. If it's something that has offended you, I apologize for any offense and hope you return to my blog. I will definitely answer any questions anyone may have, if my opinions is not understood.