"...Behold I say unto you, that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise" --Alma 37:6

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

Defending the Family Proclamation

"The time will come when only those who believe deeply and actively in the family will be able to preserve their families in the midst of the gathering evil around us."
~Spencer W. Kimball~


The world is constantly changing. There are now far more than two ways, male or female, to define your gender (Which makes no sense to me). There are also multiple sexual orientations you can identify with and there are multiple types of official families now. 

The family is being torn open, ripped apart, and being put back together entirely fractured, deformed, and nowhere near the same. 

The rest of the world would have you believe that the family is just fine, that all of these changes are simply the family structure evolving and adapting to our changing or evolving world.  The world claims that these changes are fine, great even.

The true meaning and purpose of families is lost to today's society. An extreme state of individualism has taken hold upon this country and everything has become about the individual. It's "me, me. I, I" Relationships are ended by a person who feels that they aren't getting anything out of the relationship. I always ask them what they put into the relationship, or what they gave. You can't get anything from nothing. 

As a member of the LDS church and as one with an extremely strong testimony and faith in the divine nature and celestial nature of families I feel a solemn responsibility to share what I know with as many as I can. Joseph Smith, an LDS prophet, stated, 
"...that when we gain a witness of the truth we will not be content with blessing our family alone, but range through the whole world anxious to bless the whole human race."



"We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God's eternal plan....Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity.....The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally."
Family relationships to continue after death? I have been taught the principle of families are eternal since I was born. The idea that a great number of people in this world believe there is nothing after death, or that our family relationships are severed after death, is so depressing. 

Alan J. Hawkins, a professor in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University, stated, 
"There is great value in sharing the principles contained in the family proclamation and great fulfillment to be found in doing so.....it contains timeless truths that will bless not only our lives but also the lives of those around us as we reach out, near and far, to share it."
In the Book of Mormon, the prophet Alma exclaimed,
"O that I were an angel, and could have the wish of mine heart, that I might go forth and speak with the trump of God, with a voice to shake the earth, and cry repentance unto every people!
Yea, I would declare unto every soul, as with the voice of thunder, repentance and the plan of redemption, that they should repent and come unto our God, that there might not be more sorrow upon all the face of the earth."
~Alma 29: 1-2~

I express the same sentiment and hope that my words through this blog will reach many who are seeking the truth and even to those who may oppose my belief. May their hearts be opened and may we work together to protect and strengthen the family in its divine form.



Friday, November 18, 2016

Anything You Can Do....

"Equality is all too often used to mean "identity"; that is, that two equal things must be identical to each other. Such usage represents a fallen and harmful understanding of equality."
~Valerie M. Hudson, Richard B. Miller~

In today's society, it feels as though every interaction between men and women is like this song. It's seems to always be us fighting to prove who's better and that men and women can do all of the same things. 

I started this post with a quote that explains that the traditional definition of equality is inaccurate. Joseph B. Wirthlin of the Quorum of the Twelve said, 

"The Lord did not people the earth with a vibrant orchestra of personalities only to value the piccolos of the world. Every instrument is precious and adds to the complex beauty of the symphony. All of Heavenly Father's children are different in some degree, yet each has his own beautiful sound that adds depth and richness to the whole."

So with that in mind, consider this: One gender does not have greater eternal possibility than the other. "Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose." 

No gender is above another and gender is an essential characteristic of who we are, our divine and eternal identity. Nobody was born the wrong gender, or born with the wrong identity. You are you, which is who you were before this life and after this life, you will still be you.

A great deal of feminists and others hoping to use biblical references to prove male domination in history, use Adam and Eve in the book of Genesis as proof of male domination enforced in organized religion. If that is what they think, they couldn't be more wrong. Elder Earl C. Tingey of the Seventy stated, 

"You must not misunderstand what the Lord meant when Adam was told he was to have a helpmeet. A helpmeet is a companion suited to or equal to us. We walk side by side with a helpmeet, not one before or behind the other. A helpmeet results in an absolute equal partnership between a husband and a wife. Eve was to be equal to Adam as a husband and wife are to be equal to each other."

What is meant by "helpmeet" in the biblical story of Adam and Eve is that a man and wife worked together to raise and protect their family. They bring their unique and individual characteristics and abilities together to complement each other. The definition of the term 'complement' is, "a thing that completes or brings to perfection". 

Elder L. Tom Perry stated, "There is not a president or a vice president in a family. We have co-presidents working together eternally for the good of their family. In other words, they are on equal footing. They plan and organize the affairs of the family jointly and unanimously as they move forward."



Monday, November 14, 2016

Motherhood

"Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind. It places her who honors its holy calling and service next to the angels."
~ The First Presidency, 1942~


I had intended for this post to be about both fathers and mothers, but chose instead to focus on motherhood. 

Being a mother is what I have wanted ever since I was a little girl playing house with my baby dolls and carrying them around the house. It physically pains me that I have not yet received this blessing, but I am also filled with hope and faith that the time will come when I receive and experience this great, celestial blessing. 

However, my view of motherhood and my desire to be a stay-at-home mother have had me laughed at and berated for not attempting to reach my full potential. I have been scolded for being lazy, and I have been reminded multiple times that motherhood doesn't pay. 

This idea of motherhood not contributing to society and being a useless profession is not new. In 1968 Betty Friedan released her book, "The Feminine Mystique". In her book she asked, 

"Why should women accept this picture of a half-life, instead of share in the whole of human destiny?" For Betty Friedan truly, important achievements required work that she said, 

"is of real value to society-- work for which, usually, our society pays". 

Friedan considered family a "risky proposition", that it "ranked lowest in terms of prestige", and forced women "to subordinate their personal objectives...putting the needs of others first, devoting themselves to the day-to-day well-being of other family members."

Years later President Spencer W. Kimball, of the LDS church, stated,

"Satan has unleashed a seductive campaign to undermine the sanctity of womanhood, to deceive the daughters of God and divert them from their divine destiny. He well knows women are the compassionate, self-sacrificing, loving power that binds together the human family....He has convinced many of the lie that they are third-class citizens in the kingdom of God. That falsehood has led some to trade their divinely given femininity for male coarseness."

Elder Robert D. Hales also stated, 

"The world would state that a woman is in a form of servitude that does not allow her to develop her gifts and talents. Nothing, absolutely nothing, could be further from the truth. Do not let the world define, denigrate, or limit your feelings lifelong learning and the values of motherhood in the home."

The world cannot be more wrong about mothers. Without mothers, there would be no future generation. Without mothers, morals and values would be lost to the world. Below is a short clip of a recent Huggies diaper commercial that really touched me:



Sheri Dew, a prominent LDS leader and CEO of Deseret Book once said,

"Of all the words they could have chosen to define her role and her essence, both God the Father and Adam called Eve 'the mother of all living'-- and they did so before she ever bore a child....Motherhood is more than bearing children....It is the esssence of who we are as women. It defines our very identity, our divine stature and nature, and the unique traits our Father gave us."

The world simply doesn't understand the importance of mothers, fathers, and family. I want to leave you with this next video which describes well the divine role and importance of mothers.















Thursday, November 10, 2016

Defending the Sanctity of Life

"We are created in the image of God. 
The union of the flesh with the spirit can bring us a fullness of joy.
Teach your children to respect the sanctity of human life, 
to revere it and cherish it. 
Human life is the precious stepping-stone to eternal life, 
and we must jealously guard it from the moment of conception."
~Elder Lynn A. Mickelsen~

From the moment of conception, a woman is carrying a child. In a different time, a pregnant woman was described as, "being with child". That truth has not changed, despite the descriptor being lost to time. 

Elder Russell M. Nelson stated, "As sons and daughters of God, we cherish life as a gift from him...Life comes from life. It is a gift from our Heavenly Father. It is eternal, as he is eternal. Innocent life is not sent by him to be destroyed! This doctrine is not of me, but is that of the living God and of his divine Son."

My favorite part of that quote is, "Innocent life is not sent by him to be destroyed!". That is very true. There is a lot of scientific information that I could include in this post, but I wish to focus on the spiritual nature of the unborn child and the sacred nature of the unborn child. 

In chapter 27 of, "Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives" it states, "Each human being, no matter how young or how small, is a 'beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and as such, each has a divine nature and destiny' ". 

I have been a preschool teacher for the last three years and know from firsthand experience the divine nature and unconditional love that each and every child has. You cannot look at a child who has love, hope, joy, and divinity in their eyes and not see that. It is impossible to miss. 

Elder Russell M. Nelson said, "Yes, life is precious! No one can cuddle a cherished newborn baby, look into those beautiful eyes, feel the little fingers, and caress that miraculous creation without deepening reverence for life and for our Creator." 

There are acceptable times for abortion. For example: "...pregnancy by incest or rape, when the life or health of the woman is adjudged by competent medical authority to be in serious jeopardy, or when the fetus is known by competent medical authority to have severe defects that will not allow the baby to survive beyond birth." (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, 1991).

With those comes the understanding that, "...these are not automatic reasons for abortions. Even in these cases, the couple should consider abortion only after consulting with each other, and their bishop, and receiving divine confirmation through prayer."

In such rare cases, serious prayer and consultation are key to deciding what the best action is for each individual case. 

I wish to end with this quote from Russell M. Nelson, "The woman's choice for her own body does not validate choice for the body of another...The consequence of terminating the fetus therein involves the body and very life of another. These two individuals have separate brains, separate hearts, and separate circulatory systems. To pretend that there is no child and no life there is to deny reality."

Monday, November 7, 2016

Enduring, Healthy Marraige

"While marriage is difficult, and discordant and frustrated marriages are common,
yet real, lasting happiness is possible, 
and marriage can be more an exultant ecstasy than the human mind can conceive. 
This is within the reach of every couple, every person."
~Spencer W. Kimball~

I am not married, nor have been yet in my life. I hope to one day find someone with whom I can build a firm and enduring relationship that will be eternal and divine in nature. I want a marriage where we support each other, we work together, pray together, and care for our eternal family together. 

In today's world, divorce is prevalent and seen as a way to leave a relationship if not all is going as planned or expected. It is saddening to see marriage no longer viewed as a refugee from and a strength through which we can survive unexpected trials that come our way. 

Elder Bruce C. Hafen stated,

"When troubles come, the parties to a contractual marriage seek happiness by walking away. They marry to obtain benefits and will stay only as long as they're receiving what they bargained for. But when troubles come to a covenant marriage, the husband and wife work them through. They marry to give, and to grow, bound by covenants to each other, to the community, and to God. Contract companions each give 50 percent. But covenant companions each give 100 percent. Enough and to spare. Each gives enough to cover any shortfall by the other."

We must give 110 percent to our relationships. Only then will we fulfill our covenants and strengthen our marital relationships. 

Elder Robert D. Hales stated, 

"An eternal bond doesn't just happen as a result of sealing covenants we make in the temple. How we conduct ourselves in this life will determine what we will be in all the eternities to come. To receive the blessings of the sealing that our Heavenly Father has given to us, we have to keep the commandments and conduct ourselves in such a way that our families will want to live with us in the eternities."

I have limited relationship experience, and as previously stated, I have not been married. I do know this however, a marriage cannot survive, if you do not strive. You, we must strive to strengthen our relationships and ensure that no matter what comes our way, our relationships will be steadfast and immovable. 

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Marital Sexuality & Fertility

"Godly sex is so much  more...than merely a physical act; it has a spiritual component...
A deeper connection [within sexual relations] goes far beyond 
simply understanding how to overcome sexual dysfunction...
It goes way beyond technique and physique. 
This deeper dimension is experienced when we move past pleasure as a goal 
and instead seek intimate connection-- not just with our bodies but also with our souls."
~T.A. Gardner~


Sexuality is a sensitive subject for many and causes even more to blush when discussing it or it is brought in conversation. However, the majority of the world discusses it freely with no hesitation, as if sex is nothing more than a good time and something to do with any all romantic partners that an individual has. It is in fact seen, in the world, as a step in the relationship process. It signifies commitment and connection between two individuals. 

However, in my world, sex is not a word easily thrown or tossed around. It is something sacred, saved for marriage, and full of great power. As the opening quote explains, true sex is a godly act with a deep emotional and spiritual component. It goes far beyond the physical act, the technique, physique and pleasure of it, to something far deeper and more intimate than the world would have you believe. 

President Spencer W. Kimball of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints once said, "We need an unspoiled companion who will not count our wrinkles, remember our stupidities nor remember our weaknesses;...we need a loving companion with whom we have suffered and wept and prayed and worshipped; one with whom we have suffered sorrow and disappointments, one who loves us for what we are or intend to be rather than what we appear to be in our gilded shell."

Physicality is not the nature of sex. Nor is it the intended focus. In Chapter 5 of "Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives" it states that, "A good prescription for marital sexuality is integrating emotional closeness, pleasuring, excitement or eroticism, and spirituality....Sexuality should be expressed in a way that enhances your intimate, marital relationship and bonds you together."

One final quote from that chapter reads, "Couples should strive to create a 'we' relationship, where both partners' sharing and pleasure is important as opposed to one person individually focused on what she or he will get out of the experience."

We live in a world that is becoming more and more individualistic. Everything is about the individual, and having a family is being put on the back burner. Relationships are falling apart because individuals are demanding certain fulfillments from a relationship that they have put nothing into emotionally, or spiritually. 

Be there for your spouse, for each other. Treat sex as a sacred spiritual experience meant to create and strength you and your spouses intimate connection. Sex is not a recreational activity meant to be had with multiple partners and without romantic or relationship strings. It is a sacred act shared in the bonds of matrimony.