"...Behold I say unto you, that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise" --Alma 37:6

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Marital Sexuality & Fertility

"Godly sex is so much  more...than merely a physical act; it has a spiritual component...
A deeper connection [within sexual relations] goes far beyond 
simply understanding how to overcome sexual dysfunction...
It goes way beyond technique and physique. 
This deeper dimension is experienced when we move past pleasure as a goal 
and instead seek intimate connection-- not just with our bodies but also with our souls."
~T.A. Gardner~


Sexuality is a sensitive subject for many and causes even more to blush when discussing it or it is brought in conversation. However, the majority of the world discusses it freely with no hesitation, as if sex is nothing more than a good time and something to do with any all romantic partners that an individual has. It is in fact seen, in the world, as a step in the relationship process. It signifies commitment and connection between two individuals. 

However, in my world, sex is not a word easily thrown or tossed around. It is something sacred, saved for marriage, and full of great power. As the opening quote explains, true sex is a godly act with a deep emotional and spiritual component. It goes far beyond the physical act, the technique, physique and pleasure of it, to something far deeper and more intimate than the world would have you believe. 

President Spencer W. Kimball of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints once said, "We need an unspoiled companion who will not count our wrinkles, remember our stupidities nor remember our weaknesses;...we need a loving companion with whom we have suffered and wept and prayed and worshipped; one with whom we have suffered sorrow and disappointments, one who loves us for what we are or intend to be rather than what we appear to be in our gilded shell."

Physicality is not the nature of sex. Nor is it the intended focus. In Chapter 5 of "Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives" it states that, "A good prescription for marital sexuality is integrating emotional closeness, pleasuring, excitement or eroticism, and spirituality....Sexuality should be expressed in a way that enhances your intimate, marital relationship and bonds you together."

One final quote from that chapter reads, "Couples should strive to create a 'we' relationship, where both partners' sharing and pleasure is important as opposed to one person individually focused on what she or he will get out of the experience."

We live in a world that is becoming more and more individualistic. Everything is about the individual, and having a family is being put on the back burner. Relationships are falling apart because individuals are demanding certain fulfillments from a relationship that they have put nothing into emotionally, or spiritually. 

Be there for your spouse, for each other. Treat sex as a sacred spiritual experience meant to create and strength you and your spouses intimate connection. Sex is not a recreational activity meant to be had with multiple partners and without romantic or relationship strings. It is a sacred act shared in the bonds of matrimony.

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